Can I tell anyone yet?

It is hard work keeping a pregnancy secret! So obviously we completely failed at it 😆

I totally don’t get why there is such a taboo around telling people you’re pregnant. I waited long enough for this, I wanted to shout it from the rooftops! I think if you want to celebrate and tell people, tell as many people as you bloody well like!

The more people who tell people early then the less taboo it will become. So if you want to tell people but aren’t sure, just go for it. It’s ridiculous that we should feel ashamed should something go wrong in the early stages, don’t you think? We’re all aware of the miscarriage risks in the early weeks, hyper aware when your going through those weeks! So it makes sense to explain to friends, family, work colleagues, why you are distracted, why you may be a bit more emotional, and not quite your usual self. God-forbid something did happen, those are the people you’d want support from too.

In the end my moto was, if I’d tell them if it ended, I may as well tell them now that it’s started 🤰🏻

So although I didn’t tell all of my work colleagues or announce in social media, I did tell my close friends IRL when I saw them and it was appropriate to talk about this massive thing i was experiencing.

We told my family by 5 and a half weeks! We had the family over for Bournemouth Air Festival weekend, this probably is a bit earlier than we’d have liked, but we were still super excited to share the news. They would have definitely spotted something was up as I’m not smoking or drinking!

Everyone was of course over the moon for us! Especially as my family know of my history of difficulty conceiving, so extra exciting to be starting this journey.

My sister was in on the secret a few days early! Having been in the same situation exactly a year ago, when I phoned to discreetly ask for some advise, turns out I’m not so discrete, who’d a knew!

6 week scan

I am at higher risk of ectopic pregnancy, due to having more narrow than normal Fallopian tubes, which I found out after key hole surgery I had previously when I was having problems conceiving. So it was a great relief to get an early scan at 6 weeks, to know that this baby was snuggling in the right place. We even got to see the little teeny heartbeat flickering on the scan! 💗

After the scan we decided to share the news with the rest of my family, so day trip over to the island for Sunday lunch.

Again, it was probably earlier than we’d have liked to be telling people, but we’re off to Ibiza with half the family next week, so probably a good idea to let them know why I’ll be turning down that glass of wine, every evening! Talk about good timing baby! … not that I’d change it for the world!

To summarise, if you are excited, or nervous, or a mix of the both, and you need someone to talk to, go talk to them! They will want to be there for you as much as you want to have someone to talk to, that’s what friends and family are for!

Please don’t feel alone or isolated in this time, especially as you can be feeling extra emotional and vulnerable as it is!

Love and peas,

Danni 🤰🏻

xxx