Well, that happened quicker than expected! And we couldn’t be happier!
I broached the subject of trying for a family with Tony after it had come up a few times in drunken conversations. As I had struggled to conceive before, I wanted Tony to be prepared for it to not be easy when we tried, as I had found out the hard way, it’s not always as easy as you think making a baby!
Well, turns out I had no need to worry! Obviously there are multiple ways in which we were highly compatible, and making babies was just another one of them! After deciding together that I’d come off the pill, it took just 3 months to get our sticky baby 🥰
If you are having problems conceiving, then hopefully this gives you hope, it does happen! It can still happen for you. If you read my previous post you’ll know I struggled for 3 years, so then to get pregnant in 3 months, was certainly unexpected!
Also, the 3 months before we got pregnant we weren’t exactly ‘trying’, we just weren’t using contraception. There was no tracking, temperature monitoring, counting the days, getting the time of correctly measured, eating pineapple through the two week wait and keeping my feet warm, etc etc and all the other obsessive things you do when you’re desperate to conceive but it’s not happening. We were too busy having fun in the bar! I was probably the least healthy I’d been in a long time, but I was the most relaxed and happiest I’d been too.
So if you are in the situation where you are finding it hard, my advise to you would be … give up! I know that sounds odd, but if you give up, it takes the pressure off. You don’t have to worry about it then, you can focus on other ways of being happy. And when you do, it might just work for you too ☺️ I found my happy with Tony, and then when we didn’t need a baby to fulfil our lives, one came along just as the icing on top.
I know, it’s really annoying because everyone says it to the point it just seems like a saying, but I can now preach from experience, that these things happen when you least expect it and aren’t looking for it.
I met Tony when I was focused on healing myself, and we fell pregnant when we were focused on having fun with each other. We didn’t force things, we didn’t try to make them for our plans, they just became our plan when they happened.
We found out we were pregnant on the 20th of August, when we would have been around 4 weeks pregnant, making conception my birthday – best present ever! Although the Louboutins Tony also got me were a close second! (talk about off to his new gf!)
I knew before I knew that I was pregnant. Just like I knew about Tony I guess. This little instinct, a tiny voice deep inside, asking yourself if you can dare to believe that something could be a real possibility. Just like Tony seemed too good to be true but wasn’t, when I pee’d on that stick, I had another dream come true, we had a dream come true.
Of course, I couldn’t wait to tell Tony! I would have loved to have thought up some cute way of telling him he was going to be a dad, but I was just too excited to wait! And also, we were due to attend my friends wedding in 2 days, so I’d need to explain why I suddenly wasn’t drinking and quit smoking overnight! (Which I did do easily actually! Maybe I should do another post on that).
Tony was as over the moon as me, of course! I was worried it might be the wrong time because he was having a stressful time at work, but if anything it was good news to keep him going and positive.
Did you have a cute way in which you told your partner you were expecting? I’d love to hear your ideas! I hope our family will expand further over the next few years, so early inspo is always appreciated!
Love and peas,
Danni 🤰🏻
xxx
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